Everyone has their own parenting opinion. So when you are a first time mother, you get advice, whether you are looking for it or not. So you have to take it with a grain of salt and do what you think is best for you and your family.
When my son was born, I would hold him on my chest each night before he went to sleep. And after he fell asleep I would keep him with me. I felt like I couldn’t get close enough. A pattern started that perhaps some parents or adults would frown upon. He slept with my husband and I. I don’t believe in letting my child “cry it out” in his crib while I listen to him with such desperation in his scream. I gave it a try once but that was the first and last time I would do it.
My daughter was born 4 years later and we did well laying her down in her own space for the first 6 months. Of course, she was right next to our bed so that I could easily reach her if she needed me. When she got to the point of sitting up, we had to change her routine. You guessed it, in bed with us. At this point I am assuming some of you are shaking your head right now. Though I can understand your point of view, please understand and respect the choices we made as parents.
One of the most frustrating things is to hear others comment on how you are raising your child, the food you let them eat, how much screen time they get, etc. To each their own. My children are respectful, kind, loving, everything I would hope for them to be. There will be a day when my son doesn’t want me to give him a kiss at school in front of his friends or when my daughter rolls her eyes and tells me that she hates me. For now, I am going to soak up every minute I can. If that means sharing a bed with them so they can be close to me, so be it. They are only little once.